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Originally Posted by Leed
I think the ONE question is: Are you willing to live the rest of your life like this? Are you willing to make your children live the rest of their "childhoods" like this until they're old enough to leave home? Is it fair to them?
Sweetie, you ARE being abused. And the kids are too. I know why you are reluctant. But he isn't going to change -- you've seen that. 
God bless, my friend. My thoughts & prayers are with you. Hugs, Lee |
Agree with Leed on this.
I know it's not as simple as asking yourself these things. I know the back and forth that people go through during a crisis where they are considering a divorce or break up after a long term relationship. Regardless of the amount of abuse, it's hard. Not only is it usually the case that the victim really does care for the SO but also people get comfortable and in a twisted way are secure in where they are. At least you know what to expect tomorrow. You know what it's going to be like everyday even before it begins. There's a level of comfort in that. I understand this.
But that is why you have to follow through and force yourself to really think on questions like Leed presented. You have to think proactively whether you really want to keep going like it is. Don't just passively ask yourself, and then quickly say "well yeah but...." and then talk yourself out of it with your insecurities and fears of the uknown. Really ponder what it will mean to stay where you are. I am almost positive you'll come ot the same conclusion many of us have here about your relationship.
Hope this helps.
~S4