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Originally Posted by amandalouise
clarity yes this is possible. everyones internal system whether they have alters from DID or not is set up in a way that each person needed/needs to survive. what that means is if a person has alters that are the type I call "fluid" meaning they have the ability to learn new things, grow and evolve, that "fluid" alter can do what ever is needed to ensure their hosts survival and what is best for them.
by the way "fluid" is just my term for it. it isnt a psychology term, just the way I identify those alters of this kind vs those that have their own jobs, purposes and reasons for being.
there is such a thing as having alters that dont have one carved in stone job, prupose and reason for being. for example a child who is being abused and they dont know which way to be because their abuser may be expecting too much from them, they end up creating alters that are able to evolve into what ever the abuser needs in order to protect the host from harm.
these kind of alters are flexible and evolve with what ever is needed in order for the host to survive.
they are created the same way in which other more categorical alters are created, its just that their purpose, job and reason for being is to evolve, learn, grow.
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I have three alters that, I am certain of, that learn like anyone else would. I refer to them as the ones who are in the world. One goes to work, and is the one who gets involved with doing things with people,like volunteering. She is very logical and good at problem solving. I have another who is very physical, he played sports, goes to the gym, fixes the house mows the lawn things like that. He is also in the world and is very good at getting things done. There is another who used to date but we are focusing on figuring things out so she don't date. It can turn into a distraction. So she has decided to wait to see how everything works out. Each of these alters have been with me since my youth. They have learned, matured and their emotional insight towards others has evolved. And continues to. They are their own selves. They are aware of each other and consider themselves on the same level with each other. Where the others who have one job are seen by them to be dependents. Ones they have to look after. They are also aware that they are part of a system. At present they are still functioning as always. They are aware I want to have us all become one. They do not object but they do not make a special effort. They are keeping everything going while the rest of us work on what is unknown. They will help once we start to heal. I have anger/rage who take care of himself and others if he feels needed. He takes advice but he can decide not to take it. And if that happens I lose time. He has been working with me but I am also aware that he can decide not to if he felt that we needed to be protected. I always keep that in mind out of respect for him.
So what I am getting from what you have said is that the three that I mentioned can make changes to how my systems is structured. I was not consciously aware of that. What I can't grasp is how would they make the changes? Would it be with thought? And what can they change? Can they move alters out of a dark space into the light? Things like that? I am trying to understanding the process. If you have any suggestions on reading material for this inquiry please let me know. Thanks for helping me.