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Originally Posted by Claritytoo
I have three alters that, I am certain of, that learn like anyone else would. I refer to them as the ones who are in the world. One goes to work, and is the one who gets involved with doing things with people,like volunteering. She is very logical and good at problem solving. I have another who is very physical, he played sports, goes to the gym, fixes the house mows the lawn things like that. He is also in the world and is very good at getting things done. There is another who used to date but we are focusing on figuring things out so she don't date. It can turn into a distraction. So she has decided to wait to see how everything works out. Each of these alters have been with me since my youth. They have learned, matured and their emotional insight towards others has evolved. And continues to. They are their own selves. They are aware of each other and consider themselves on the same level with each other. Where the others who have one job are seen by them to be dependents. Ones they have to look after. They are also aware that they are part of a system. At present they are still functioning as always. They are aware I want to have us all become one. They do not object but they do not make a special effort. They are keeping everything going while the rest of us work on what is unknown. They will help once we start to heal. I have anger/rage who take care of himself and others if he feels needed. He takes advice but he can decide not to take it. And if that happens I lose time. He has been working with me but I am also aware that he can decide not to if he felt that we needed to be protected. I always keep that in mind out of respect for him.
So what I am getting from what you have said is that the three that I mentioned can make changes to how my systems is structured. I was not consciously aware of that. What I can't grasp is how would they make the changes? Would it be with thought? And what can they change? Can they move alters out of a dark space into the light? Things like that? I am trying to understanding the process. If you have any suggestions on reading material for this inquiry please let me know. Thanks for helping me.
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to answer those questions you need to talk with your treatment provider. only you and your treatment providers know how and why your internal system is set up the way it is, how your alters make changes, whether or not your alters can get other alters to come out of the dark and into the light...
for some people it just takes being co conscious to have the ability to share and make changes.
for others it takes therapies like hypnosis, deep relaxation, and other types of therapy that will enable the host and alters make changes in their lives and the internal system.
for others it takes a heck of a lot of work on these traumatic events and triggers that caused the person to create their internal system of alters...
for other....well you get the picture..
each person is different so there is no one way in which the host and alters can make changes and evolve if their system is one that evolves.
there are many good books and articles on how the brain works, and topics like dissociative identity disorder, alters creations and conceptualizations of the internal system. amazon.com has well over 3000 books that are about this disorder. Im sure if you did a search on there you will find all kinds of books that fit what you are looking for. Sometimes what I do is look on amazon for what ever topic I am looking for, take down the book tittle and author, then I check with my co workers to see if anyone already has the book, if not I hit the library and the crisis centers requisition forms for purchasing new books for the crisis center. this way I get the book I need with no cost to me and the crisis center gains a book for their shelves.