Jimi, just to explain how far from eye color and height I have come, I now need:

- an impeccable record of treating all former romantic partners in a nice, warm, and caring fashion. Because chances are, I will eventually become a former partner and I want to be treated nicely. The guy with the brother with suspected Asperger's still does his ex wife's taxes, many years after their divorce. That scores a point with me.

- low maintenance. Must be able to cook his own food or go to Trader Joe's and buy something to eat. Must not have any expectations. The guy under discussion here, when I ask what I should cook or buy to it, says that he is not hungry. I actually like to cook when I feel like but I should not be expected to do it a lot. I should not feel pressure.

~ this one severely limits my options ; must be very easy going about housekeeping. Ideally, should himself live in a place that is somewhat messy and somewhat cluttered. I do not necessarily expect to live together actually the opposite is true, just to be very involved, but still I do not want the guy to come in and criticize my home environment. This is hugely important. The guy discussed here qualifies. I cannot stress the importance of this factor.

~must like zaftig women in their as is state. I might eventually lose some weight but I do not want anyone setting it as a quarterly goal for me. The guy discussed here is absolutely fine in this regard.

+not jealous, emotionally supportive, positive, friendly, with an excellent record of fatherhhod or step fatherhood.

So as you see, nothing about the looks.