1. The 100 paragraphs I typed about happiness have little to do with your signature. But it will be mentioned because any form of self-degrading talk can hurt you regardless of how, where, why or when it's used.

2. You didn't tell us what your mother actually did so it's impossible to comment on it one way or another. No one is taking sides because no one knows what actually happened...

I want to do what I can to help you get through this but I'm not going lie to you and I'm not going to tip-toe around something that seems dangerous to me. That does nothing for you or me.