Sometimes I used to wish that people could actually discuss their beliefs about love and sex early on in the relationship. Now I am married so it isn't a concern for me. I still think it would be a good idea. It is better than finding out later on that your beliefs and values aren't as shared as you thought they were. It sounds like you are saying that your needs were not met - and also that you have the moral high ground. When you are ready to try again, I suggest being careful not to go to the other extreme. There are plenty of men out there who are too ready to commit and too quick to talk about love. They are also not sufficiently mature emotionally and will not be able to give you genuine love.