gypsylace...

your friend is bound to be depressed right now, it must be so so hard for her to deal with, but i am sure she is so grateful to have a friend like you by her side. i think all you need to do right now for her is to ask her what she wants and try to provide it. the home help could be good for her if she decides she wants it. to be able to be at home would help her feel better as its familiar, safe surroundings. give her a few days to think about it.

you'll know what to do soon enough, as will your friend. it sounds good that her son is willing to help you help her, he is sharing the responsibility which makes it that little easier for you. and with you feeling better, you can provide better help and care for your friend.

make sure you take care of yourself first though, you are the most important person in your life and you cant possibly provide substantial support for your friend if you are down yourself. im guessing that because your friend is on meds and is depressed, she will say things that she doesnt mean and you need to be able to hear them but remain strong for her, so make sure you are good first. she might want to die right now, but deep down she doesnt mean it, most people who go through depression want to die from it, it is so consuming that we think its the best way out, but with help she will heal and become happier and healthier.

i admire your courage and friendship with your friend. you are a gift to this world gypsylace. if only everyone who was in the same situation as your friend had someone like you by their side.

and your daughter will come round soon, as she gets older she will want to see you, for definate. you may not be able to see her right now but you will shortly. focus on yourself and your friend for the time being, the situation with your daughter cannot be helped right now, as long as you make her aware that you love her and miss her (but dont force it onto her) she will see that and want to start seeing you again. im sure of it.

well take care gypsylace, and i am here for you if you want me ok

simon (simply_simon)