I instead take that as a warning against the person doing the warning because they are attempting to make up my mind for me as to who my friends are. No one has the right to tell me who I should like and not like and be scared of. Those are my decisions to make.

Isolation is the very first sign of an abuser. Abusers warn people to be weary and scared of others basically isolating the person so that they can at a future time abuse them in some way.

So when ever I recieve a pm or email from someone on line telling me to be careful of so and so sometimes elaborating telling that person they are warning against disclosed to the warner that they are only pretending to be DID and so on I take taht as someone who is attempting to stir up trouble for the person they are warning about and practicing the abusive trait of isolation by trying to limit my friends and or that other persons friends and abilities to make friends. if they can chase off the other persons friends they have that person all to themselves.

in my opinion People who practice isolation tactics are very imature equivelent of a preschool - kindergarten because children of that age want their friends to only like them and no one else and they are very insecure for they may think that person they are warning about may like like the other person more than them and extremely abusive.

Domestic violence agencies and rape crisis centers teach that it is the person that is practicing the isolation tactics that a person should be warned about not those people that the abuser is warning the person about.

So to all that recieve such notices from fools no matter where they are on line warning to stay away from others - you have every right to decide for yourselves who you want to be friends with and so on.and the person warning may possibly be practicing the art of abusive isolation. Clues to this type of person - Look at all the comments our own abusers used in isolating us and scaring us away from others - "I'm only tellling you this because I care about you" "I don't want you to get hurt" "you know I really care about you..." you don't want this to happen... " Any comments that are geared to suck up to you while telling you about that other person is a loud bell ringer that the person doing the warning is out of line and knows they are out of line.

a non abusive person does not engage in discussing other on line persons. Instead they let the on line people decide for themselves.. Especially if you did not bring up that person you are being warned about to begin with.

Personally I don't warn about others, for that is not my place to do that. But I do warn others about MY own posts and so on by writing right on my blog that I don't expect people to agree with me and that feel free to take my information in to their own therapy professionals so that they can use what works for them and pass on what doesn't.

Hang in there.