because what one person percieves as a danger may not be what another person on line percieves as a danger. We all have our own tollorance levels and likes and dislikes and what we need to help our selves heal. a person doing the warning is going on their own triggered reactions not the other persons experiences and so on.

Everyone has a right to make up their own minds without being biased by other peoples problems and triggers around the person that they are warning against.

Most if not all websites have a rule clearly defined in that websites guidlelines for using message boards, pms and so on and that is that when encountering someone you yourself percieve as being a danger report it to the moderators and administrators and they will take it from there and investigate, and the person placing th e complaint against someone else within that community can ignore the person by using an ignore icon when available, shutting off the pm access to that person so that that person cannot pm them or just not read what they are saying. no one is forcing anyone to open any pms or threads. the pms and threads are clearly marked with who is sending it or who is posting it.

Everyone has their own likes dislikes and triggers. if I saw someone carrying a snake I would definatly cross the street but a friend of mine would walk right up to it and drape it around her.

on line life is the same way what triggers and upsets one person may not trigger and upset another.

Take my situation I recieve many emails to my katherinemanne email saying the person just checked out my blog and threads even though they have been here a while. someone (and yes it was disclosed as to who)had warned them against me so they stayed away and now that they see for themselves my information, it could have helped them through months of pain and confusion if they had only not gotten scared by someone who did not like my information or did not need my information or could not use my information.

Warning people instead of letting them take their time and relax and experience things for themselves in these cases of at least 15 emails has actually caused the person MORE pain and confusion and upset then letting the person read and take from my posts and blogs what they need and pass on the rest.

I have also recieved here and at my email address many people trying to tell me -"don't help so and so they really are not DID"

is that person warning me against another member a professional qualified to give on line diagnosing?

no that person had no right to subject me to that imature behavior. Their doing so was an attempt to pull me away from that other person. They were either trying to isolate me or they were trying to isolate the other person. In my opinion that kind of behavior was wrong and I told them so. and then told them I would no longer accept communication from them.

on line no one has a right to decide who someone else should be scared of or stay away from. Only the person who is experiencing that person can say whether or not that person is going to be a friend or foe. others wanring otheris is abusive and harmful because they have no idea what the likes, dislikes, needs, wants and tollorance levels are of the person they are warning. They in my opinion are being selfish - they don't like someone so they don't want others to like or make up their own minds. instead they decide FOR them who they should like, dislike and be afraid of on line. in the end doing this imature behavior harms the person being warned because they may not get the help and support that they need and want because they are now isolated and afraid.