(((MikeyM and TinySparrow)))
it is hard to leave groups that we have grown accustom to, people who we think are friends. I think if we invested time into the "bonding" even if it was small amount, to others--I would imagine, it will be a little emotional to leave a group for the better of ourselves.
MikeyM-
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I know I must leave this group for the sake of my sanity but I want to do it with a clear mind...absent of resentment, judgement, and anger
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Like absent of resentment, judgement and anger is this of yourself with others, or others towards you?
Only you can control what you do/think and not others, and others will think, judge and have emotions how ever they do....
TinySparrow hit something that was very true for me--
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Sometimes they don't know or realize the way they're acting.
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With the realization of that it can help that some people that do the things that are mentioned here, do have their own issues- and that is on them- and they may not realize that they are doing what they do, or they may well full realize it but not sure why they do it (if that makes any sense). Some times it helps with "judgement on others". coupled with just wishing them well (it can be hard with some) but wishing them well to get better for themselves.....
Anger and other emotions-- I don't mean to sound really all feely here, but I think a point of "grieving" will occur with leaving a group or people.. but that is just my opinion. People don't like to loose people, weather that be in the sense of gone forever, or taking different paths.
Think Tiny Sparrow has some good suggestions-...... slowly detach, ...
Some times though, that does not work-- and I really do hope that works for both you--- but some times ya just gotta leave.
Main thing is--- DO what is right for you, with your situation.
I do hope you both well---
it is very hard, especially with people that you see/saw as friends-- because there is a connection there, despite all the things that may be negative
