That's ********. My dad always cleans his own bowls and does some house chores for my mom because she works. However my mom trained my dad to clean after himself and he has never been messy like that even when he didn't work. Its not your job to treat your husband like he is your child. I am mean. I would just put the leftovers in the fridge and give it to him the next day. I would tell him that he is a grown man who is capable of the 5 minutes it would take to clean the dishes.

Honestly I have yelled at my bf to clean after himself sometimes because he uses the 'i work' excuse. I will not clean his dirty clothes if he doesn't put it away now. You reminded me I need to be a hardbutt. X.X