Hi HB.

I would echo Rose's question...as she said, not trying to be rude, but I am curious. My mother gave birth to my sister at the age of 42. It was, without a shadow of a doubt, the most stressful period of both mine and my family's life. Happy, of course...I love my kid sis, but there's so much fear. Will she be healthy, what are the risks...granted, that fear is compounded by my family's conviction against abortion in all but the severest of cases (which I really, really don't mean to open that whole can of worms...just offering my situation. I understand it isn't entirely applicable here.), but it's still terrifying. And then there's raising her at that age...again, no one in my family would ever ask for a "redo" in my sister being here, but my mother is running on fumes on a continual basis.

There's a lot else to consider...what is your doctor's opinion? Will you be able to continue your medications while pregnant without harming the child? You certainly can't smoke cannabis while pregnant (well, judging off you can't smoke tobacco while pregnant, I would think the same applies...yeah, no additives and all, but that can't be good for the child). Are you prepared to devote the next 18 years (at least) of your life to parenting? How much support do you have?

Again HB, not at all trying to be mean or negative...having seen my mother do it (or rather, watching her do it), I'm concerned for you, is all. I consider you a friend, and I don't want to see you jump into something as monumental as this without considering everything. Please, know I mean no offense.

Hugs,
Harley