Fuzzy I think your thoughts on this show how kind and open you are to the idea that people are, for the most part-- good inside and mean well--- you said here: </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I take it as well meaning, that the person is trying to save me from distress,

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> To jump to the conclusion that the only intention of such a person is to cause hurt and harm is-- to me-- no better than the old time witch hunts. "They are bad --period!" ....... I don't think it's "black and white" only.

There could be any number of reasons the person is warning you of someone. Like one example: what if they thought that third person's life was in danger and they knew if they warned you --then you could then be careful how you express yourself around that person---- to me it's being compassionate-- not mean or wrong. Also-- if you know the person that is doing the warning and that person has always shown kindness-- then labeling that person as "bad" is looking through a very narrow dark view-- IMO.

Unless the person said horrible hurtful things about the third party...... I don't think it's that clear cut to say anyone that does so, is wrong. There are just too many different reasons for someone to do that. I don't jump quickly to judging-- and it sounds like you don't either.

Though, to keep from any misundstandings to occur it's best, I've found, to take any concerns to moderators or admin.

Whatever is going on concerning this with you, I hope things have a good outcome for all involved.

My heart is with you, kind bear.


mandy