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Originally Posted by Palmtree3
Hey guys,
Im a 20 year old female, and recently realized that I´m extremly jealous, often in a bad mood and depressed. I argue with my boyfriend quite often lately and my jealousy is getting worse and worse.I dont want him to go anywhere(bars, gym etc) I dont want him to do anything with his (male)friends. Im scared about him getting hurt or doing something stupid(whatever this might be),or worst finding another girl.(I personally think Im really not good looking at all & can´t satisfy him.espeically sexualy.).Whenever Im with friends or family and not with him I need to message and call him all the time. If he doesnt answer I get nervous, and very mad.I just need to know what /how he is doing ALL THE TIME.Otherwise my chest/stomach starts hurting,I feel sick and just restless.I dont want to control him and I do want him to have fun with friends.I just need to be with him 24/7 and need to know whats going on.I realized that my behaviour is not normal anymore & I started thinking about the cause.Is it possible that I´m just scared of loosing him because my father died after he was very sick when I just turned 6.Im also VERY scared of fire.I dont know why.Just the thought that something is taken from me is driving me insane. Also my boyfriend really loves me and doesnt flirt with anyone.So I really shouldnt worry, but I need to control him anyways..I also read his texts and messages because I wonder whos messaging him and what he talks about with other people etc.
Whats wrong with me? And how can I work on my attitude?
Thanks in advance  |
I know exactly what you're going through right now. I am dealing with the same thing. You have definitely made tremendous progress by actually realizing that you've got this issue. Right now, you really have to talk to your boyfriend about this issue, but don't rely on him to fix you! You need to educate yourself about this as much as possible. What I actually did was take time away from my boyfriend during the week, so I can focus on myself and finding ways to cope. I suggest you do this as well! It will help you learn to trust yourself and your partner! Now you need to figure out what triggers your emotions and what caused you to become irrational. When you do that, you need to then understand your emotions.
I am really interested if you find anything to help you because I'm struggling with trust, myself. Please keep me updated!