I totally understand. I'm not that close to my mother, but she is worried that I'm too independent. She says she's proud of me, but always asks if I'm with someone. She even brought up my little sister to feel like she needs to be with someone, because that's all my mother knows. My mother was remarried 5 months after the divorce.

Some people simply don't understand, and you can't fault her for that. While I understand that it's frustrating, and more than likely you'll never get her to see "your side".

Just be honest with her. Tell her that you're not ready for a relationship, and that anything now wouldn't be one. She may not understand it, but it's honest. And if she keeps probing, tell her to stop. Tell her you don't want to rush into a relationship for the sake of being in one, and that you want to be smart about who you choose so you can be happy for a long time.

Good luck! We're in the same boat, love!