It takes a lot of work and understanding on my wifes part to deal with the symptoms of my bp. But as long as I don't use it as an excuse, and I am trying, she is ok with it. as soon as I play the bp card... she knocks me back into place. All you can do is try the best that you can. And you are already doing that. Hang in there! One day something will click and you will have the understanding that you deserve.