Ok about the thing about being mean and lacking empathy, LOL, you asking the wrong person LMFAO, I lack empathy hard core!!! But to tell him you had sex with your husband and he is desiring you the alerts me with red flags and I will tell you why, are you trying to make him jealous? That would be the only reason I would ever say something like that to an ex, LOL, idk i could be reading into it wrong ? tell me more