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Originally Posted by CnM0819
Hello my name is Maritza and I am 26 years old.
But a few months ago, I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, Depression and Anxiety by my psychologist who is, until this very day, seeing me to cope with my emotional issues.
I recently saw a psychiatrist who felt that I can start with an Anti-depressive medication called Celexa. It is amazing that on the very 1st day I started it, my moods began to change positively automatically. I started this medication a little over 2 weeks ago. I am not saying I am happy-go-lucky perfect, BUT I cannot deny that I actually have control over my emotions. I was really bad to the point of having various arguments a day with my boyfriend. So many petty arguments because of my silly thoughts. I would accuse him of checking out girls on TV!!!! I would accuse him of doing something he was not even doing!!! I was irritable, angry and quick-tempered. Now I am able to collect myself and realize that my thoughts are unnecessary. I feel so much better now. I know it is only 10mg worth, but it is doing wonders. I now feel that when my boyfriend and I do get into an argument, I get thoughts that maybe I am being like I used to be. My psychologist assures me that normal couples argue sporadically. I believe it but at the same time it's hard for me to believe it for myself. So I am getting accustomed to this happening occasionally. I still need constant reassurance but I am so much better which is what counts at the end of the day and I am happy to have the support from my boyfriend, my psychologist, my psychiatrist and my family.  |
I may have answered this last night, I don't know because apparently I fell asleep in the middle. Anyway, if I did, disregard it.
Yes, it is normal for couples to have disagreements. It is normal for any two people to have disagreements. In fact, I'd be more worried about people who never disagree at all!
The main thing is how you handle the disagreements. There are unspoken rules for disagreements. These are the rules that I try to stay with, but may not hold true for others.
1) stay on the subject. Don't bring prior problems or bad acts into the disagreement.
2) raising voices is one thing, but yelling doesn't do you any good and may exacerbate the problem.
3) no name calling or other petty, childish things
4) you know what hurts your partner the most and what makes your partner the happiest. Those are things you share. NEVER betray a trust by picking out the thing that you know hurts your partner the worst and use it in anger. Once you do that, some trust is lost.
5)Try to end the discussion in an agreement instead of just stomping off into different rooms
Now, you may not want to listen to me, my marriage didn't go so well, but those are the rules I watched my own parents follow as I was growing up and still stand true today. They have been together over fifty years and had some pretty hard times with their kids, but at the end of the day, they supported eachother all the way.
I hope that helps.
Sam2