Has she responded to those kind of emails before? [yes in fact she told me she would always respond unless I specifically said no need to] A lot of therapists won't, not for any malicious reasons but as Rainbow said because they want to hear us talk about those things in person, too. And if she has, and this is something new, that's something to talk to her about too. Why are you not bringing it up but then wondering what she's thinking, are you testing her if she'll say something? [no by the time a week has gone by with no response, I feel more like, WTH, if it was important to the work at all, you would have said something. so I just don't mention it any more. This has happened at least once already.] Not judging or being critical, I promise, because I've done it myself. [no problem ] But it never works, direct honest communication is the way to go. I really would believe your T wants to hear about it and help you, she is not trying to set you
up for anything.
[who knows maybe she IS trying to teach me that IRL, people just suck it up.
I really can't tell.
It's possible that suffering through this is supposed to teach you something (not that 'T doesn't care', something real I mean, something I can use in my life). I just can't seem to "get it" - which is why I was frustrated and in pain in the first place.]