I really have tried to disect this and determine if this is "no one is good enough for my child". I truly do not think this is the case. The girl is perfectly sweet, but has the maturity of a toddler. And she's very maluable. Her mother is bat-crap crazy and I am concerned. The girl has never handled money in her life. My son will now be giving her the ability to obligate him to debt that he will have no knowledge of while he is deployed for 6 - 9 months.

Her mother is mentally abusive, tells her she's ugly (she's not) and fat (Good God no), etc. She has such issues with even water that when we brought ther to San Diego to his boot camp graduation she was so dehydrated that she was tenting! He loves her and feels her only way out is to marry him. My concern is that she sees it the same way. Does she love him? Or is this a way out of a horrible situation?

I PRAY that she surprises me, that she finds some strength and courage. Right now this situation is no where near equal. He spoke to her last fall and said that she should get a job to 1) get her out of the house and meet some new people 2)save money for their wedding since they will get no financial support from her parents 3) Learn how to manager her money. My place of employement was willing to hire her site unseen. All she had to do was fill out an application. She did not.

In the meantime, he is saving literally every penny he makes to set up household for them. He will not drink soda because they no longer offer it in the mess and he isn't willing to pay for it. He sends her a bit of money every check, how much I do not know. None of my business. BUT, a co-worker comes in to work and tells me that she (future DIL) called her daughter and asked her to go to the fair with her. Daughter said she couldn't afford it and my future DIL says she'll pay because she doesn't want to go alone!