I can also tell you that: when I had a neuropsych evaluation in 2009, I told the psychologist about sexual molestation when I was a teen, from time to time, by my father. The neuropsychologist who knows the system very, very well, having worked in the VA for more than thirty years in addition to private practice, said that it is very common and that when it is reported, counseling is automatically recommended and the criminal justice system is NOT invoked. He said that our halls of justice would have been unable to deal with the load otherwise. I have not verified his figures but that is what he said. At any rate, he was not impressed at all. When he learned that my mother threatened suicide in my presence when I was 12, he was impressed and immediately dx'd me with PTSD. He is wrong - I do not have a PTSD, at least not now, I do not have flashbacks or anything like that and I have recently processed this memory and incorporated it into my life history as one of the many unusual things that my mother did. Sexual molestation in adolescence, by contrary, did have its repercussions and confused me etc. I will still need to work with a T in regards to sexual molestation but not in regards to the threatened suicide. So for me personally molestation was more significant and detrimental, but statistically, based on the reaction I got from the neuropsychologist who was clearly in the know, fathers molest their daughters much more frequently than mothers threaten suicide in their daughters' presence.

And that is just people who ACT on attraction to their daughters. Imagine how many people experience it but do not ACT on it! So it must be the case that you are clearly not alone. I imagine that you must be very troubled by this attraction and wish it would go away. For that you probably need therapy. Certainly therapists have heard all you have to say many times, and worse, but you never know whom you would hire and just in case it might be some over-zealous trigger-happy T eager to report, I would write a text explaining that you have ideation that bothers you and that you have no plans whatsoever to act on this ideation and have never had such plans but would like therapy to process the incident and make the ideation go away.