not an attitude, just an idea.
and it isn't transference, but since transference is a tool, it can be used in this way i suppose.

I don't believe that a T should feel bound to wipe every sniffle that comes out of Client, in person or via email; if Client is in crisis T should be there yes, but if Client needs to work through something & T senses no crisis, then perhaps Client should be given space to do so.... even though it may be painful. This is painful work, rewiring after 50 yrs of reinforcing the old pathways.

I *know* there's nothing I can throw at her that she can't handle - I will try to work on it myself and see what happens. No emailed histrionics, no hissies in session... we'll see.