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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
not an attitude, just an idea.
and it isn't transference, but since transference is a tool, it can be used in this way i suppose.
I don't believe that a T should feel bound to wipe every sniffle that comes out of Client, in person or via email; if Client is in crisis T should be there yes, but if Client needs to work through something & T senses no crisis, then perhaps Client should be given space to do so.... even though it may be painful. This is painful work, rewiring after 50 yrs of reinforcing the old pathways.
I *know* there's nothing I can throw at her that she can't handle - I will try to work on it myself and see what happens. No emailed histrionics, no hissies in session... we'll see.
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((((SAWE))))
I sense your pain, and I wish that you wouldn't characterize your struggle as 'histrionics' or 'hissies', that minimize the pain you are feeling. What I see is you struggling, trying to work through this issue, even if you don't have it figured out yet.
I still think, as I just posted, that she is waiting for you to express your pain in session, maybe she doesn't know if you are ready to do this or not so she is not bringing up the subject? I do hope that you can go into session and at least tell her how you felt, even if you don't feel it at the time. I would email my xT angry emails, and then experience massive shame in session. It took me awhile to express my anger in session. When is your next session?