I'm with you on the lying thing. Except when it would hurt someone's feelings. I cannot lie. Do not ask me if I like your new haircut or outfit if you do not want to know the truth. Because this has created so much conflict in my life (people think I'm cruel, a *****, etc) I've taught them that in some situations you may be forced to bend things.

I have no idea why she wouldn't have put them in another bag and donated them. I guess the only person that has that answer is your daughter. I also believe that you are wise to stay out of it.