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Originally Posted by earthmamma
I think consistency is much more therapeutic. Talk of T's backing off alarms me. We work through things together. I'm sure it is best to ask a therapist directly if they are 'backing off'.
My therapist has replied to every single email I've sent her in the past 9yrs. That's not to boast. Just to point out that backing off isn't necessary. I can't say it's held me back nor taken away my abilty to work things out on my own. I'm if anything more able to work things out.
I think this attitude of being taught a lesson etc or being suddenly ignore to toughen us up is transference. Or a therapist that's out of their depth?
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He has responded to each one of my emails as well. By back off, I mean he is becoming more like a coach on the sidelines rather than swooping in to fix things. He also sometimes lets more time go by between responding to my emails. Usually it's within a few hours though, and he reminds me to use my tools as opposed to other things he did in the past.
He's allowing me to try and work through some of my issues without him, which I need to learn to do. So, I do think backing off in some regards is healthy and needed for some clients. It's painful, but it's necessary.. for me.
He never ever ignores me though!