I don't think it's stupid or dumb either... what a terrible thing to have happen. Please call around to find a dentist that can be understanding...or even an oral surgeon (they often have more money and time to put into quality personnel and facilities etc..training..) who knows how to calm ppl even before surgery.

I know they will schedule procedures in segments for you. I have TMD and can't have everything done at once but small bits of time.

Also, have them talk to you telling you what they are doing or about to ..in between the chit chat... having the assistant there to help YOU is good too. TC