"for some reason i have dound that HPD attract to NPD's alot"

As I mentioned, I married a narcissistic guy (3rd husband) and I do get the attraction. He always knew what to do and never had doubts about it either. At least with a narcissist, you are never caught up in indecision and frozen in doubt. Your husband sounds like a great guy. As you say, none of us are perfect. As long as he is working on the NPD and how it effects you, that sounds great.

"So what did you mean Im a girl in action ?"

I just meant that you take action when you need to instead of putting up w/a bad situation. I think I linger too long. Actually I did leave my 1st & 3rd husbands pretty quickly once I realized I had made mistakes, so maybe we are both ladies of action after all. My shortest marriage (2nd) was three months but that ended very sadly and badly w/the suicide. I lost heart after that for a long time. I could not live w/myself. Husband 3, the narcissist, rescued me. He had enough confidence and courage for the both of us.

Ex-bf never called but he is sending me stuff in email, links to something. Who knows what? I'm still holding out for the apology he owes me. Why can't he just say sorry? He is the opposite of my husband. White collar/blue collar, refined/rugged, etc. Well, they are alike about apologies. Tick tock on that apology. Not that it matters. It's over. I feel guilty today. My head must be clearing.

Take care honeybee. I admire your positive outlook, always cheerful!! TTYL -GC