I can see your point. I really can. She knows she has issues, and that we could not work until she worked them out. I would not get back into a relationship first without her working on herself first.
I have a very busy year ahead of me launching a big company and I just want to live for myself. Do I date? absolutely! I have been on 4 different dates and have one tomorrow, as dating but even if she wasnt on my mind I wouldnt be in the position to get into a relationship until I climb on top again.
Who knows....she may end up happy with someone. We may reconnect in the future as friends, and never progress past that.
I care for her deeply, and she said that I was the best thing that has ever come into her life and that I was God send to her, and if you know what she has been through and how far she has come from where she was you may see it a little different. I know that sounds like I am making excuses for her, but I am a little empathetic as to why she makes rash stupid decisions.
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Originally Posted by NoCake
This is not a good decision at all.
You're putting your life on hold for someone that had no interest in yours. It is selfless to the point where you are completely neglecting your own needs as a human being and putting her life above your own. You are putting her on a pedestal and eliminating your own self worth.
Sounds bad when I put it that way huh? But it's true and if you are willing to do this then it might be a good idea not to get into any relationships for a while and work on setting higher standards for yourself.
You got played. It happens sometimes. Now maybe it will be hard to move on but that is the only option. Sending an email like that tells her that it's ok to abuse you, lie to you and treat you as if you aren't important since you'll do whatever she tells you to do anyway. It tells her that you are still sprung... Regardless of her motivations it says that you'll be there if she needs a man to use and throw away.
You have to move on. You can't have a relationship with someone that mistreats you like that.
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