I don't have much to say of any great info. but yes logically speaking, one would wonder why any man or woman would stay, oh yes, you are not "weak", you sound pretty much of what most stable woman would want, but then again I am no expert. I've heard that sometimes when you are raised in a home where you are made to have low self-esteem, you sort of get use to that and believe it is all true, sadly men or women may subconsciously feel comfortable in that relationship cause it was similar to their childhood. Some actually start feeling they need to be punished, etc. I am sure there are books and stuff on the net about this, and I am sure there are some members here that may have some suggestions on this and some sources for info.
Don't judge the whole female population by what you have read here, this is a support forum so yes, it may appear that many people stay in abusive relationships, etc. but I wouldn't let that make me feel that's the "norm" nor would it make me feel I am not of the "norm" if I am not abusive.
I don't know, did what I just say make any sense? Maybe there are also "some" women who are attracted to abusive men, maybe like thrill seekers fighting the challenge?
Whatever, stay the way you are