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Originally Posted by ladytiger
quite a bit of my old friends were negative. i had a friend who dropped me because i didn't come from a good family as she wanted a future hubby and great friends who came from great families, she was so into the whole stereotype of the house and white picket fence.
ive had friends who were not there for me but i was there for them. i want a new set of friends and my therapist said subconsciously we attract those we dont want to attract and she feels that is what i am doing but not aware of doing it.
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I can see where your therapists is coming from. If we concentrate on the things we DON'T want, we tend to get more of it. I guess I or we need to focus on the things we DO want.
I have friends who think the same way...white picked fence, 2.5 children, home in the suburbs. It used to irritate me. I'm not the type to conform to society's standards. In time I've learned to accept their ideologies and even see the positives things in them. What I will not tolerate, however, is their snot-nose attitude to the contrary. If that's what they do, so be it. I just don't have to be around it anymore...and that's my choice.
Funny...I've always believed in the things I've just said but haven't exemplified it lately. As I am typing this I feel that I 'materialize' my thoughts - kind of making it more of a reality for me rather than a theory of some sort. Hah wow, typing things out really help!