As Leed said, don't be a doormat. After my separation from my ex, she was similar to your husband in that she held onto control of the finances with a death grip. I was kept in the dark a lot of the time and if I tried to even help she did the same thing your husband is doing and accused ME of trying to take control and do everything my way, so over the years, through many struggles financially, I bit the bullet. The thing is, now I've got my own finances and although I have the remnants of years of credit problems to clean up now, I also see a lot more cash flow.

I say all this simply for the fact that I see him like my ex, as controlling, and as Leed said, a very selfish person.

That he blamed you for the loss of the house is just crazy. Seems to me he let it go because he had a back up plan and maybe even that was his primary plan - to move back to mama's house. He probably saw "no payment' and forgot everything else and just let it go.