My worries about what my therapist would think of me were similar to yours 'Tilly may'. But I am glad I took the risk and told him. It turns out that he thinks my feelings are positive, and that my attachment to him, the fact that I really like him and enjoy our time together, is all useful stuff for therapy. I know for myself that I would not be able to share my thoughts, fears and feelings with him as I do, or be able to do some of the scary CBT 'homework' if I didn't feel the way I do about him. Trust and affection go hand in hand for me.

My partner knows how I feel, which I am happy about, and he has even brought me some cologne to use only when I go to therapy so that in the future if I am ever missing my therapist, or just need a dose of courage, I can smell that smell and be transported back into that safe, supportive place.

Sadly Willowleaf the organisation through which I am receiving therapy does not allow me to have much in the way on contact with my therapist between sessions. It is really hard, as an occasional email or text would go a long way to helping me when I am feeling really low.