Well, unfortunately there are alot of people that have strong narcisistic ways. Remember we all have some narcisistic qualities to us, but some people have so much that they only see their own needs and they don't truely empathize. And that is where I struggle myself with them. I have alot of empathy and I have found it difficult to interact with them because they don't.

I have had many discussions with my therapist about this because the attorney I interact with has very strong narcisistic ways about him. Infact, so much so that he completely embarassed me at my deposition.

The other thing unfortunate is that they do not know they are narcisists. They are completely unaware and are often very "entitled" people. I feel bad for anyone that has to work around alot of politicians because there are lots of them in that arena.
And they can talk on and on about what they think people need to hear in order to show they are very concerned about certain things, when actually they are not. It is all about "power" for them, power and control and lots of "adoration". You can always tell because "they wont budge from what "they think is important or what they want".
They typically walk very upright and tend to stick their chests out. Unless ofcourse they are old like my attorney, but he still has to "expose his chest" and open up his shirt so you can see it. Ugh, not attractive at all. They have no problem taking the ideas of others, and making it their own either. They will even spend money they don't have, the most important thing is "they have what they want which is whatever it takes to have power". They are good a making promises, but it is all so that they can be adored and it doesn't mean they will actually follow through with their promises. If you check and see if they donate to good causes, they don't but they will do it with the money of others, or to get that tax break. They will be the first to discredit anyone they "think" has a way of belittling them or has more power.

They only really pay attention to those that "adore them" so it sure isn't easy to debate with them, unless they can walk away feeling that they are the one that is "most powerful and in control". They like to have people of "influence" and are the "in group" or popular or weathy around them. They like to talk about what big lawyer they know, or what big college they went to, they don't like to talk about any of their faults or lacks. The bigger they are and more powerful, if they fall, so do many others but they don't care, they only care about how "they are hurting".

See, some of these show up in the average person, but with a Narcisist, they are the most important of all. People can be "attracted to them" because they can exude confidence and drive and things don't seem to bother them as much. We tend to admire someone who seems to have "control" over their emotions, we don't stop to think they don't care like we do.

The only thing they understand is "adoration". However, they can be swindled badly because of that too.

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