I don't know how to post a new message so I'm replying to this one because, to the contrary of you, I don't think I am in a situation of abuse while all my friends think I am. I have an excuse for every behavior my husband presents... I believe my job as a wife is to be understanding... Well, it's just as hard to escape when you think you are over reading the abuse than when you are making excuses to not see it. Take the test this web site has to see if you truly are in an abusive relationship. It was an eye opener for me. I have taking it three times (because I still don't believe my relationship is abusive) and even I have changed the answers, every time the results indicate that it is!