Oh if that is the case then it is a serious situation, for real. Why did he marry someone he only considers cute? What was the point in doing that? But he is entitled to have married you for reasons that only made sense to him... why did it take eight years to tell you that you are only cute to him? But at any rate, therapy is not magic and I think that you would need magic to turn him into a passionate lover that you obviously need. So you should find another man, which based on your self description should be virtually effortless.

The good thing in your situation is that you know what you need very well and are able to formulate it. You are not confused or unsure. That is all great. But you are with a wrong guy.