I try to remind myself that usually narcissistic personally types have pain too.... they've been hurt along the way and some of these traits are defense mechanisms to ''protect themselves''...

And think as already mentioned, we all have just A smidgen of ego..... Just not all take it as far as some .

Just my two cents

My mom fits many characteristics of one even ext mentioned some of talks of her, she'd mentioned ''sounds like she had some narcissistic traits''

So can understand how it can be triggering, as well as with some ''control views''

Many hugs