I direct my rage towards myself too. It leads to a lot of self hate and self harm.

My coping is to remember and/or think about anger and know it is there for a reason. then I hyper focus on something that is making me really angry.

And then I'm off! maybe not in the best mindframe... but I get things done that way. and somewhere in my journey, I do find that the anger seems to get kinda used up.

used up and i can make peace with it at that point.

prolly cuz I feel productive and I eliminate what was making me mad.

Now.... (disclamer)..lol.... it took me a lifetime to figure out how to minimize the collateral damage of one of my rages. and that's partly why I am so protective now of those around me. Cuz I let it out once on here, and I couldn't be sorrier.

anyways, maybe you can find something in here that helps... just me being honest again.