Goodness no, I love my husband. As I said before, we are best friends, we are very well suited in every way...except this one. I may have to learn to live with it. It may be that he does not feel great about himself, which does not lend itself to feeling sexual. I am not really at the point where I want to tell him that it's therapy or nothing. I don't want to leave him. I don't want him to be a different person, but I don't want him to look at me like some cute little thing that should simply be cuddled. I am a very sexual person, I have always been and he was keeping up with me just a few years back. I think I will back off a little, stop coming on so strong, I don't want him to feel guilty or inadequate because he can't fulfill my needs. However, I do expect him to try a little harder, and I will articulate that when I can because I think it's important. I am not a cheater so I will not be on the prowl for another man. I will see if he wants to go to counseling with me, though I highly doubt he will do that. Thank you guys again for all of your comments.