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Jan 31, 2013, 02:06 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2012
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Originally Posted by Perna
I would think a T would get lonely, what with the client going all "wonky" as Starry_Night points out can happen. It can take a long time for a client to work through transference and I'd think knowing the client was doing the mother/father transference thing but not in a position to discuss it as part of the therapy yet and the therapist not able to get things moving quicker could be frustrating.
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I'm not sure why a therapist wouldn't be able to discuss transference? Mine sure has discussed it with me. She explains things that she picks up on, and it helps me a lot. There are some transference things that go on that I'm aware of on my end, and are too sacred to me to bring up. It's like, I worry that if I put it on the table, the magic of it will dissipate, and I'm not ready to give that particular thing up  . So some of the things that go on in my head with respect to the transference in our relationship, I keep to myself. And we sure don't discuss it every session. But it's been addressed, and sometimes I get the sense that some of the things she does spring from her awareness of it and her belief that it will meet a therapeutic need. It's like we're both aware and aware that we're both aware, but we let the mystery of it do its work without putting it under a microscope. It just hovers, or permeates, or does whatever it does that feels so healing to me. It does make me feel very secure when she does something deliberate that supports the transference. Leaves me feeling like she knows where I am, and isn't in any kind of a rush to take away what is clearly working well. But us talking about it and her explaining it to me early on was important, because doing that ensured I could safely wander around in it, experience it, need it, without fear.
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