For the hair is it long? Sometimes my sister puts a little bit of mousse and crimps her hair. You can also get a haircut that's low maintance that looks sexy all da time. I did this because long hair is too hard/exhausting for me to style. I also have two left hands and suck at visualizing so doing hair is impossible for me.

You might want to look into an accessory belt that could help slim the midsection and put more emphasis on your curves if your top/bottom are proportional. You could use a small one or big. (Depending on outfit ) Make sure your putting it below your bust and not around your waist.

Jackets that have simple designs but are fitted can help, too. You want it to be snug. It doesn't necessarily need to wrap around the front. If your not really short you could try half jackets or 3/4 down ones. Remember you don't want it to be busy or have the jacket give you huge shoulders.

For pants, try to get something that is tight around the butt and loose as it goes down. (Also makes your leg look more straight) Your super nice butt will define these pants.

Accessories can also help outfits and make them feel new. You can add the steampunk flair without offending anyone at work. Etsy is a great place to check for accessories that fit your style.

You may also look into going to torrid and telling them you need help finding clothes that fit and make you feel sexy. They usually have clothes on sell during holidays and can be found at malls. My friend (before she got bypass) went there and I think they helped her understand/be comfortable in her clothes because she became stylish after she went there.