I agree with Leed, he is abusing you. It is really sad that the people who we should be able to rely on, the ones who should be supporting us, sometimes take advantage of our vulnerable state instead.

I haven't been a member of this site for very long. I thought I was the only one going thru some of these situations, but browsing through the posts, I see now that I'm not.

My husband has had the habit of becoming distant, cold, and very critical of me when he has found a new female "friend" to text, call, etc. If I ever said anything about it, it was always my fault- I'm too sensitive, too insecure, too jealous, crazy, I won't let him have any friends, whatever. He's convinced me over the years that a LOT of things were my fault. I am finally seeing that it's just not true.

Please do not let him convince you that everything is your fault. It takes two in a relationship. You do not control his actions, words, behavior- HE does. I don't know if he follows through on his threats of physical violence. Even if he doesn't, he is intimidating you, manipulating you with guilt, and abusing you with his words and his actions. You deserve better.