It's "them," Sweety, but knowing that doesn't stop the pain and frustration and wanting to change things.
Thanks a lot for not wanting to fix things by giving me advise. Don't think I'm ready for that.
<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>
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Psalm 119:105 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.