Hello,

I am a bit confused by some of the responses that you've gotten (about your daughter being an adult). She is 15 y.o., right? She isn't an adult ~ she is still very young and innocent. It is perfectly normal to be pushing rules and limits...but I would certainly be upset if I found nude photos of my daughters at that age!!

IMO, it's completely inappropriate and dangerous of the girls to give into their bf's desires at 15. They need to learn about themselves, how to protect themselves from sleazy guys, and how to know when the right time (and right guy) is. They have to protect themselves, especially at 15, it's a crucial age!! Stuff like that gets on FB awfully quickly & they'd be dealing with major shame. So, I would certainly sit down and have a serious talk with my girls considering my role as being their mom. No, I wouldn't say that the photos are hers. I'd say "hand them over to me now, we will cut them up together" in order to protect her self-worth and self-esteem. That's absolutely vital!

Regarding your sexual feelings, I don't know. I have had strange sexual thoughts pop into my head a few times over my life ~ thoughts that I would NEVER act upon. Honestly, just thinking about X made me feel horrible and I'd go into a huge self-kicking period. A few months ago, I finally admitted it to my T (therapist) and questioned my sanity and general humanity. He assured me that it wasn't unusual or sick to have unwanted thoughts pop into my head from time to time. The important part, of course, is whether or not I choose to act upon the thoughts. My T explained it as just a random thought. Like a memory popping in your head while showering of a time when you and Y did Z together years ago. Does that mean that you miss Y? No, not necessarily. You go on with your life and the thought quickly fades away. If you obsess over it, the thought isn't going to go away ~ whether or not you miss Y! You'll just have more and more thoughts about Y, bringing up a lot of anxiety and confusion regarding Y and the life that you currently lead.

My point is, let go of those thoughts. Yes, your daughter is pretty. Now, let go. Your family needs to work through the pressures that your daughter has: what she has to do in order to feel pretty and/or sexy. Work together to come up with healthy activities that she's interested in following ~ like Dance, acting, sports, art, etc. Just some ideas ..give her some healthy activities to help her feel good about herself and pass the time in a healthy way while she matures.

That's my advice...