Your therapist trying to explain how you got to where you are today is not the same as not liking you or saying you cannot change/be helped! My first T in 1970 told me I was either going to be "told what to do by others or be ignored;" not something I really wanted to hear.

Anyone who does not know how to share themselves with others yet, who hasn't learned to give and take is going to appear "odd" and standoffish. I was alternately a wallflower and a sullen, angry mess that other people perceived as stuck-up (I was actually afraid).

Your therapist (and others) telling you how they perceive you is a gift! It's the only way you can see how your behavior (as opposed to your thoughts and feelings) is affecting your life. For the last 5 years or so my therapist and I have been working on my being "formidable."

By all means tell your therapist you don't want to be the way he described you and ask him if he can help you change. If he says he doesn't want to or that no, you're stuck, then fire him. That the plant was born twisted and sickly or became that way early doesn't mean it can't become healthier and grow straight toward the Sun. Look at trees around where you live; very few are totally straight, most have kinks in their main trunks, wounds, etc. from bad experiences, weather, disease, etc.