Hi,
I joined this group a month ago but don't seem to know what I'm doing on this board so I'm going to try again to introduce myself and see if I can post things properly and get more feedback.
I'm fairly normal (I think) but do have some depression and marriage issues. The most recent thing issue came because I took in a friend who had cancer surgery; it was supposed to be for her recovery period until she got an apartment. Well, that turned into a several month thing and before I knew it, my husband and she were getting rather cozy; he was treating her like a sister wife, pampering her, threating her better than me, waiting on her hand and foot, helping her in and out of the car while I struggled to crawl in the back seat, etc. You get the picture? Well, it turns out everytime I suggested she get into her own place, she'd get really sick again, crawl off to bed, and say she couldn't go off on her own. She'd have more pain, confusion, couldn't take care of herself. I fell for it at first. Naive Noreen, you know. But when the hugging and kissing (on the cheek) started, I knew I was beening played by her and I could see where it was headed. I did get her out of my house, but now I can't seem to overcome the hurt and distrust I have toward my husband. And I wonder if more happened during the times I left them alone. She certainly did act like a wife (self-confident in her relationship with him) the last few weeks she was here, that makes me think that is a possibility. (She started showing up at the breakfast table with nothing on but a bathrobe which she conveniently let fall open exposing her breasts) Of course he denies it, but he denies any feelings for her whatsoever; he did say he 'pampered' her too much. He said he kissed her out of compassion and to give her a 'little pick me up.' Whatever! I asked him if he would like me to kiss a male friend like that and he said, "No, I don't think I'd like that." So that tells me there was more to it. Honestly, I don't know what I want to do. I have some severe health issues, I'm no spring chicken, so I don't see many options at this stage of life. I'm trapped. If I were younger and healthier, I'd be gone in a heartbeat. But should I spend the last few years of my life in an unhappy marriage? I don't suppose anyone can really help me but just writing it down may help. I can't tell anyone in my family or my friends what happened. They'd be shocked to say the least. And I would be too embarrassed to admit I was so dumb to have been played like that. I am a breast cancer survivor so I thought I was really doing a good deed. I can't believe my husband betrayed me like that. I think much of it has to do with the fact I had a bilateral mastectomy and this woman still had breasts because she had colon cancer so she was enticing him with that. But it was still his choice. His choice. His choice. His choice.