What a rotten thing for him to do! And especially since you're obviously struggling with a self-image problem. Believe me my dear friend -- you are NOT defined by your breasts. And breasts do NOT make you more sexy!! You can be JUST AS SEXY without breasts as you can with them!! Maybe even more so! LOL The ONLY reason we have them in the first place is to nurse our babies! When the babies are gone, they might as well go too! LOL I've had breast cancer too, but I got lucky -- I just had a lumpectomy but i sure look weird. One is all messed up, and the other one sags something awful. No way can I find a bra that fits.

Anyway -- I have a feeling that you're right, and hubby played a little more than he's admitting to. I might be wrong, but the way you described how SHE acted makes it sound a little questionable. She certainly was no "friend." How dare she pull a thing like that on you after you so kindly gave her a place to recuperate!!!

Do you think marriage counseling would help? I would bet that all would come out in the wash with the counselor. And it would help you two learn how to communicate better. Something tells me that you two don't really "talk." There's an art to it -- and you need to learn how. Plus you might need to learn how to fight fair. There's also an art to that too. See what he thinks and try marriage counseling. It might just work, and get you two back together where there aren't any more resentments, etc.

I wish you the very best. Please let us know what happens,, will you? God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee