James, I completely understand. Stable or not you still have BP. I know that's not comforting and damn scary to change who we feel we are. It's not fair to us for others to want to "fix" us. That said it's in our best interest to temper ourselves be it meds, therapy, diet, schedule, exercise or a combination. You have to look at what BP has/will take away from you and decide if saying f--k it is worth it. I know your frustrated but just think about it.