I'm sorry you are dealing with this.

Now you need to take what I'm about to say with a "grain of salt" I'm in the middle of a very ugly divorce. If you are thinking about the possibility of a divorce, start planning for it, don't let yourself be blindsided like I was. Make sure you know EVERYTHING about your finances. And if possible be the only one that knows about them. Check into the divorce laws in your state, position yourself to take full advantage of them. Do NOT confide in your husband any mental illness issues. Start putting cash away, not in a bank account, you will have to disclose any of those, not in a safety deposit box, you will also have to disclose that. Find a safe place (or several) and start putting some money away just in case. I know (all too late) that my wife stashed HUGE amounts of cash while running up debt in my name. I wouldn't recommend that, don't be mean, just be self aware, and knowledge is power, so start stocking up.

But also speaking as a man, there is way more to a woman than her breasts, it's the heart that is underneath that counts.