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Originally Posted by dolphinlover8
I recently just started seeing a new therapist. Last night I told my therapist that I have feelings of not wanting to be here anymore on this earth.I knew her from before theraphy so I thought I could trust her. That is the only reason why I told her about my feelings. Today I saw that she emailed my mom and told her. She didn't say as much detail about it as I told her yesterday. She also said bascailly everything we talked about in the email. This is my second time doing theraphy with her and she also emailed my mom the first time too saying what we talked about. My mom does know that I can see her emails but I think sometimes she forgets that I can see them. If she really didn't want me to look then she would have changed her password but anyways I thought I could trust her but obviously I can't after that email. She did say in the email to my mom that she knows I would be upset if I knew she emailed my mom about this and that she isn't going to plan on telling me about it. She is right that I am very upset because the minute I read that email I started crying. there was a reason why I didn't want my mom to know. I wanted to save her from having to worry about me because it is just thoughts of not wanting to be here. Nothing more. Now it is going to be hard pretending like I know nothing about this. I am very nervous now of telling her things. I thought theraphy was suppose to be confidental and if there is a safetly issue they would tell you if they needed to talk to your parents.I don't know what to do now because I know I need therpahy but this is the second therpaist that I don't trust now and I don't want to continue with theraphy now. Since I just started and I am not suppose to know she tells my mom what I talk about I don't know how to get that to stop or how to stop theraphy without it seeming like I know about the email. What would you do in this situation?
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I wonder if your therapist and your mom are discussing what goes on with you in therapy because you may be under age 18?
the reason I say this is because here where I am in New York, which is in the USA there is a state mental health law that says any time a therapist believes their client of any age is suicidal or doing harm to their self or others they have to be reported to the therapists supervisor, the mental health agencies superior person if no supervisor is on hand and also if there is a guardian or parent that makes a persons health decisions they must also be contacted. we also have a zero tolerance law that states anyone who a mental health person believes the client is a possible danger to their self or others through suicide, self injury or making threats upon another must be taken in to the hospital for a 72 hour hold in the mental health ward/unit where psychiatric staff can observe and evaluate the validity/and seriousness of the thoughts/ actions or threats.
if you are a person under the age of 18 and your mental health and location laws are like mine then your therapist and your mom have every right to discuss your thoughts of suicide (thoughts of suicide are things like saying you want to die, you dont want to be in this world anymore, and on through to actual planning of the suicide.)
if your location and mental health laws are like mine then your therapist had no choice but to report what you had stated.
what might help is maybe you and your therapist can talk about what legalities she has to abide by in such situations. and maybe you and your therapist can talk about what things she wont have to report or discuss with your mom. for example when I treat teens I tell them the first session I wont have to tell their parents about things like school issues, dating issues but I do have to report if they are suicidal, self injuring, and sometimes I will consult with the parents to find out more information about the home life, routines and if I feel inpatient services would help.