I am curious as to what it would feel like having sex with him. He is extremely, extremely sweet. Sweet and gentle. I have never been around someone so sweet and gentle. No, I do not expect earth shattering sex with him but I think it can be very nice. But I cannot tell without having had the experience - I am not good even at weather forecasts. Yes, it does seem like we are already sort of close friends who have known each other for ages - you are right spotting that. But I have a suspicion that I am just not set up the right way in the first place and become sexually attracted to the wrong people. Say, I still would have loved to have sex with ex 2nd H even though I know that he has abused me through and through, taken everything that I have had of value, and ruined my career and life in general. But I still find him attractive. So there might be something in my internal set-up. Therefore, if I keep looking for strong sparks, I am afraid that I will be drawn to a wrong person. I might need years of T to correct what is wrong with me. So I do the opposite now - I first interview and evaluate people, ascertain that they are good for me, and then decide if to proceed with having sex with them. I have interviewed Randy through and through and he is good for me. He even has a record of living with a woman who was recovering from domestic abuse, and he helped her with that. This is very commendable in my book. While I do not intend to USE him in that way (no, I do NOT - I am just looking for a friendly casual r/s on equal terms), I did make sure that he is not abusive.

I certainly do not recommend that YOU go by such unusual rules in your dating, because you do not have such unusual history that I have, but I am just explaining where I am coming from and how I have developed my criteria for partner selection.